Speak Your Mind or Forever Hold your Peace.

 Dont be afraid to speak whats on your mind.  It is the first step to resolution.

Are we afraid of confrontation because we lack the skill to express ourselves effectively?

Are we afraid of our own feelings?

 Feeling angry never feels good, (insert a big "DUH") but if we dont speak our mind, the feelings dont leave us, they grow and mutate into something even uglier, something that isnt even real.

So why do we hold on to our "stuff"?  Why do we avoid resolutions and thereby "stuff" our "stuff" deep into our bodies, our bones, our organs?  Why do we want to hold on to, to claim, to own something that doesn't feel good?  Because it feels better than the alternative!  When we are angry at someone else, we are generally blaming them for something.  When we blame someone else we focus our energies on what they did, and we dont have to look at what we did.  Anger feels better than guilt.   When we hold onto anger and dont speak and take the first step to resolution, we are making a conscious decision to ignore our lessons.  And the bigger that angry guy gets, the better we feel about ourselves-by making another person wrong, we we are faking ourselves into beliving we are right.  And everyone likes to be right.   

No argument is one sided.


What is the worst that can happen?  We have to face the angry guy who exists inside of us!  And maybe the angry guy who exists in someone else.  Yes, they are both ugly.  But underneath the anger is hurt, and we can only hurt if we "care", which means that underneath the hurt, there is compassion.  Speaking your mind is the first step to resolution because it begins to peel the layers off of the situation to get to the truth, and at the bottom of it all, is compassion.  Dont walk away from a fight  :)  Someone yells?  So what!  If you're going through hell, keep going (Winston Churchill).  Ssee it to the finish, because after all the layers are peeled back, at the core is always love, or at a minimum, resolution.


You have three choices with anger:  resolve it, stuff it, or let it go.

Speak now or forever hold your peace!

Love and Light,
Elle